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Saturday, January 26, 2013


You be the judge of that:

One thing that I believe we all fear is being judged; especially if it is by a person who is not thinking fondly of us. The chance that we get judged harshly or mis-judged seems high. There appears to be so much power in judging and so little in being judged. One day I realized that I was so afraid of being judged that I had started living in the "average zone" - the safe zone, where it was least likely to be judged, since not much of my behavior was showing any kind of character, opinion, conviction.

Not only was that a boring way for me to live life, I was also very unsatisfied, unfulfilled and started judging myself for it. One other effect of that behavior was that I started judging other people who did show their individual character, did stand up for their opinion and did stick to their conviction, all the while radiating and having fun. That was enough of a wake-up call for me. After all, I used to admire those kinds of people, getting inspired to do the same myself. That makes for a world full of authentic and nonjudgmental people, full of originality and energy.

Hardly ever is there a need for a judgement. What it does take is to have good boundaries and be able and willing to walk away from harmful or situations and people. It does take good observation skills and a strong decision power. All of these things we can acquire and practice. Focusing on what serves us gets us automatically away from negative behavior. After all, there is just not enough time in the day to focus on everything. Any minute that we spend with healthy and positive thoughts and behavior is a minute we can´t spend worrying, giving up, getting down on ourselves.

Any minute we don´t spend judging ourselves or others, we can spend getting closer to our goals, enjoying who we are today and enjoying the wonderful and supporting people in our lives. Once we let go of judging, we have a lot of spare time for all the beautiful things this life has to offer.

Here is to you going for it and enjoying it!